Sunday, October 31, 2010

Wow, it's really been that long?

I have been extremely computer unfriendly the last several months, but I didn't realize my last post was so long ago!  Yikes!  Sorry to all those faithful followers of mine.  I am hoping to post at the minimum once a week from here on out.

Here's what you've missed these last 5 months:

MAY:  Travis turned 18 (groannnnnnnnnn) and Justin got his driver's permit.  I groan at Travis turning 18 because now, even though he still lives with us and isn't working, he's decided he's an "adult" now and can do what he wants when he wants.  I DON'T THINK SO!  But it's such a battle every day...

JUNE:  Not much happening this month.

JULY:  Hubby and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary!

AUGUST:  Just a usual month.  But school started, which gives me a little break! ;o)

SEPTEMBER:  Once again, just a usual month.

OCTOBER:  Justin went to Fright Fest at Six Flags and they told him his season pass wasn't activated.  HUH?  He's already been to Six Flags and used it!  He went to the office and they said he needed the e-mail that confirms the purchase.  Well, I deleted that MONTHS ago after the first time he went!  Fortunately, he got a decent person and he gave them my e-mail and they confirmed his pass is valid.  But here's the best part...they ALSO gave him a 2011 pass for FREE!  I guess there really is some good left in this world!
Also, Justin turned 16 this month, and best news of all!  I was able to locate my cousins and three aunts on Facebook!  I haven't seen my cousins in 17 years, and I haven't seen my aunts in 45!!!!

Saturday, May 1, 2010

My Biggest Pet Peeve

Ok, so my kids do a lot that annoys me, but they are also really sweet kids.  One of the things that really bothers me though is that when I ask them to do something, the answer is ALWAYS "Ok, hang on!"  I absolutely hate that!  I mean in all seriousness, if I wanted them to do it later, I would ask them later, what's so hard to understand about that?

Then there's the expectations. I do a lot for my kids, and I have tried to give them everything I didn't get when I was a kid.  We gave Travis one of our cars for his 16th birthday.  (No, it wasn't a new car, but don't feel too bad for him, it's a 1986 Toyota Supra that he LOVES and thinks is super sexy!)  But if it needs something (like last week it needed brakes) he expects to use my car...doesn't even ask!

And my youngest expects to be taken to Benicia (the town we lived in before we moved here) every weekend.  It's a $4.00 bridge toll and 40 miles each way, times 2 trips (dropping him off and picking him up.)  Or, if one of his friends from Benicia comes out here, he expects me to either pick them up or give them a ride home.  His friends' parents never offer to do that for me!

But my biggest pet peeve with them is how they dress.  I am a pretty easy going mom when it comes to their "styles."  If they want long hair, fine, short hair, fine, I've even let my youngest die his hair blue!  And I remember when I was a kid, the worst thing a parent had to deal with was guys having long hair.  I remember when punk came out and I told my friend "OMG, I hope we won't have to deal with anything like that!"  So now punk has evolved, and all the kids are into piercings, and I am so-so okay with that.

But the PANTS.  The saggy pants.  Even with belts on.  It drives my TOTALLY crazy.  I absolutely hate it.  Now my kids aren't as bad as some of the teenagers around here.  I see some where the crotch is at their knees, the pants are 5 sizes too big, and the kids have to hold them up with their hands as they walk around.  That's pathetic.  What's the point of wearing pants?

My kids look more like fact, this picture could EASILY be of my boys and one of their friends:

I am constantly hounding them to PULL UP YOUR PANTS, and my kids sigh and act like I'm the big green meanie.  But it seems I'm not alone.

This image is from someone on Facebook called PULL UP YOUR PANTS YOU LOOK LIKE A F***ING IDIOT!!
and there are 795,631 peeps that "like" the posts (and counting.)  So all is well in mom world, apparently I am not alone in my perspective of these stupid pants these kids wear.

Friday, April 30, 2010


We had some really cute visitors the other day.  They came back yesterday.  Once was nice, but I don't think I want them returning again.  And they came out of nowhere and decided to visit us.  Not sure why...

I took pictures and videos, but the camera I used isn't hooked up to my computer yet.  I have an older one that I need to uninstall before installing the new one.  Maybe at some point today I can get off my lazy butt and take care of that.

Hard to do though.  Hubby's been home and when he's home I get SO lazy.  Now I have a glimpse into the future of retirement...ugh.  Not a pretty picture.  Seems a little boring even.  LOL!

Well, hopefully I will get motivated later and be able to post the pics.  You're gonna love 'em!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Check This Out!

Do you have a son, brother, husband, dad or friend that likes drifting?  Then send them to my son's blog "DrivewaysToSideways" @

He has some great stuff there and would LOVE to have some followers!

Sunday, April 25, 2010

My Baby Isn't My Baby Anymore!

My youngest turned 15 last October.  Tomorrow he is getting his driver's permit.  I know most of you mom bloggers out there have kids a lot younger than mine, so you may not be able to relate.

But do you remember when you got your driver's license / permit?  I sure do. The feeling of independence and freedom was overwhelming.  Not to mention the fact that you "think" you are grown up at 15.

My youngest has always been very independent...he hates it when I say "You are only 15!" when he wants to do something I think is too adult for him (like go to another town for a concert, or whatever.)  But now that he's getting his permit tomorrow, I have to admit I hate the idea that my baby has grown up.  He won't need me anymore.  In six months he will be a free spirit (which is a good thing) but it makes me feel like I am losing my identity as a mom.

I am just praying that my kids see me the same way my hubby sees his mom.  They are very close, and he used to ask me if it bothered me that they were, and my answer was always "HECK no!  Men treat their wives the way they treat their moms."  I want to be close with my kids my entire life, I want them to always want to be in contact with me and always want to see me, just as their dad is with his mom.

But now that the both of them are grown up, it scares me.  I wish they were 2 and 5 again.  I sure miss that age...

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Down Time

I have ALWAYS needed "down time."  Time to relax and unwind.  Time to prepare myself for going to sleep.  When my kids were little it wasn't an issue.  They went to bed a lot earlier than I did.

But now that they are teenagers, I have found getting my "down time" has been a real challenge.  Especially on the weekends and school vacations. Because I don't enforce a bedtime on those nights.  They just aren't little kids anymore, and I have no reason to make a bedtime for them.  On school nights I DO enforce a bedtime, because they are responsible for getting up and making it to school on time.

Anyway, I finally found a way to get down time and prepare myself for bed an hour or so before I want to go to bed.  I change into my jammies and robe and brush my teeth and all the other bedtime things I used to do just before I went to bed.  I find if I do those rituals an hour before I go to bed, it relaxes me and since I've been doing them for so long, my brain automatically signals me to go to sleep.

What do you do for down time?

Thursday, April 22, 2010

To all my loyal readers and followers...

Sorry I have been gone so long...

About 3 weeks ago hubby got really sick, then gave it to me about a week later. Last Monday I went for a followup appointment at my doctor re: my BP and cholesterol. When I got there my oxygen was 89%, and he had me walk around hooked up to the monitor and it dropped to 83% and my pulse was 110. He sent me to the ER and I was admitted to the hospital. I was discharged yesterday. The last question my ER doc asked me was "If you quit breathing, do you want us to take heroic measures to keep you alive?"

I am only 49...that question scared the CRAP out of me. So I really need to change my ways.

Also, at my insistence, Hubby also went to the doc on Monday cuz I told him it was unnatural to be that sick for three weeks. Turns out he had an infection that spread throughout his body. His BP was 103/65. He was also admitted to the hospital and was released today.

I have always said I would die before him, but now I'm not so sure.

Looks like our lives of hard and fast living are catching up to us.

But now that I am better I will be posting again.  If you would like to follow my progress on improving my health, you can do so here @ My Health Quest.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Blogger's Block

Do you ever get "Bloggers Block" (similar to Writers Block)?  I have the exact opposite problem.  I think of so many things I want to say in my blog, but it's usually late at night and I don't have the energy to write it all down.  Granted I am pretty new to this, so of course I think I have a lot to say.  Maybe the day will come where I do get Bloggers Block and will not be able to post every day.  But until then, this is a serious problem for me, because usually the next day I forget most of my ideas.

So at first I thought I could write my idea topic (one word) down, and refer back to it later and then I would have something to jump-start my creative juices.  Didn't work.  I looked at that list and I wondered what I was thinking?  My list consisted of various entries, such as friends, dreams, TV, school, clothes (oh, that one I remember!)  Most of these I have no idea what I wanted to say!

So I have devised a new plan of action.  If you have lots to say, then this might help you as well!  I start writing my post, just the main idea, and then copy it to notepad and save the file in a folder named "Unpublished Blog Posts."  Then if one day I can't think of what to write, I have my ideas already written.  It doesn't take much for me to finish a post once I read the main idea.  Topics don't help, but I have found this solution very helpful and I can even use them in the future when I am burdened by Bloggers Block.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

New Addition?

My youngest really wanted a Siberian Husky when we got Ace, but the pound didn't have one available at the time (2 years ago this month.) So we got Ace, which is a decision I'll never regret.

Yesterday Justin called me (he is visiting friends in another town) and told me one of his friends here has a Siberian Husky/Malamute that they need to find a new home for. He asked me to take Ace over to see if they would get along. Now I'm all for having more animals, and I think Ace would really benefit by having a playmate when I go back to working full time. But my hubby is dead set against it.  But, we all know who rules the roost in this house (heh heh heh...and that's why my kids always ask me for things...I am such a pushover!)

But look at him...isn't he just GORGEOUS????

Although, one concern I had was they are both male, and I was worried about the whole "Alpha Male" thing going on.  But I took Ace to meet "Batman" anyway (SO against my hubby's wishes) and things went fairly well.  Batman is a LOT bigger than Ace, AND he's only 7 1/2 months old, so he will get HUGE.  As a puppy, he was all over Ace wanting to play.  Ace dealt with it fairly well, and gave the puppy "what for" when he extended Ace's boundries.  But Ace was totally worn out at the end of a 15 minute visit. 

The other issues I have are that our yard isn't very big...I don't think we have enough room for Batman to exercise correctly.  And he sheds...a LOT.  They said they just brushed him, and I had dog hair all over me, and I barely got next to the dog.  Also, I'm not sure how well he will get along with my cat, FleaBag.  She doesn't like dogs and can usually fend for herself, but if this dog doesn't like cats, she's history.

So I called Justin and told him I didn't think it would work out.  He was devastated.  But I promised Justin we would take Ace back there to see how things go, and I want Justin to see how the dogs interact (he is totally protective of Ace.) 

I will keep you updated on if indeed we have this new addition to our family...


Thursday, April 8, 2010

What's a Family to do When Mom Gets Sick?

My hubby has been really sick the last six days.  I had it too, but not as severely as he did.  Until today.  Thanks to him breathing on me all night for the last several days, I finally succumbed to this sickness to the same extent as he did.  And to make things worse, he is feeling a LOT better today.  Get rid of it by passing it on to me, thanks a lot!

But have you ever noticed that a home literally falls apart at the seams when Mom's sick?  No one knows where to find anything, all of a sudden everyone needs their laundry done, people panic when it comes time for meals.  It's total chaos.  I taught my kids how to fend for themselves, so what's up with the sulking and irritation that Mom got sick?  They should be taking care of me, right?  But instead they make me feel guilty cuz I got sick.  What's wrong with that picture?

In all fairness, they aren't as bad as they used to be, cuz I've gotten lazy in the past few years.  There are times everyone needs to fend for themselves just because I feel taken advantage of.  I sometimes wonder how they would survive if, God forbid, I keeled over unexpectedly.  But I know they would, and that's why I feel taken advantage of.

There are days when hubby says "What's for dinner?" and I just want to SCREAM "Why is it up to me to decide what's for dinner day in and day out, and why is it up to me to make dinner?"  Of course I know their answer...cuz I'm the MOM.  See, they forget I'm a DIVA too!

Ok, enough complaining on my part.  I'm just letting it all out because I feel so poorly, usually I have more restraint.  Hopefully tomorrow will be a healthier day!

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

What's a Mom to Do? Wants to Know Wednesday

What REALLY creeps you out? It could be anything...a look someone gives you, a critter, a movie, a person, a sound...
Whatever it is post it here!

I have two things and they're both critters:

Moths and Oriental Cockroaches

That's how bad they creep me out; I have to use the smallest print.  Moths creep me out because they ignore your personal space and don't seem to have a clue on where they're going.  I used to bartend and once a moth was flying behind the bar and it cornered me and wouldn't leave and wouldn't let me get past it to get away from it, no matter how much I squealed.  Everybody in the bar had a hugely good time at my expense.  I never heard the end of it either.  All I wanna say is get over it already.  After all, everyone has something that freaks them out.

As far as Oriental Cockroaches, (also known as Water Bugs) those things are just gross.  They are the bugs that were used in the movie "Men In Black" when Will Smith was stepping on them saying "Oh, I'm sorry, was that your Auntie?"  And they're top heavy, so they tend to fall over on their backs and their nasty little legs are going  a mile a minute as they try to right themselves.  Then they spin...on their backs.  How they do it is beyond me, but it just makes my skin crawl.  Literally.  God must have been having a nightmare when He created those things.  

I do believe all of God's creatures have the right to live...just not in my house!

Tuesday, April 6, 2010


(This is one of the posts I lost and recovered, but I have added to it.) 

A lot of husbands and wives give each other nicknames and we give our kids nicknames  as well.  We've even given our dog nicknames...several of them.  The first being Pumba, cuz he prances like the pig in "Lion King."  Another is Lawn Gnome, cuz he sits in our front yard like a statue; the only thing that moves is his nose...constantly sniffing the gazillion smells to be smelled only in the front of our house!  My personal favorite is Sir WhineAlot, which is self explanatory.

Many years ago I gave my oldest the nickname "Honeydo" because he is always so willing to help me with something, or to do something for me.  I gave my youngest the nickname "Love Bug" because he has always been very affectionate and loving.  Of course over the years "Love Bug" became "Bug Aboo" and finally now it is just "Bug."  He doesn't mind though.

They each then decided to give me a nickname:  my youngest calls me his "Aboo Bug" and my oldest calls me his "Prettiful Woman (how sweet was that?)  Kids...ya gotta love them.

I think it would be very interesting for those who read this to please reply with the nicknames you've given your kids, and any they have given you!

Monday, April 5, 2010

Quit Cramping My Style!

Kids are home for Spring break, and hubby is home for a week for vacation.  Boy is this cramping my style.  First of all, I feel like if they are on vacation, I should be too!  (We can just forget the part that I am unemployed right now!)  So I feel like I shouldn't have to do, cooking, shopping, washing clothes or any other of my routines.  (So who do I think I am, a diva?)  But they all still think I should be doing all of my normal stuff.  What's wrong with that picture?

Additionally, I tape certain TV shows that I can watch during the day to break up the monotony of the day.  I tape them rather than watch them when they're on so I can skip commercials!  (Don't you just LOVE TiVo?)  Seems lately I am on a reality show kick.  I like The Biggest Loser, Dancing with the Stars, Celebrity Apprentice, Celebrity Fit Boot Camp, Sober House, Extreme Makeover Home Edition, etc. etc.  I used to claim I didn't like reality TV, because I never watched American Idol or Survivor or the one where people did disgusting things (I can't even remember the name of that one.)  But lately I've looked at what I record and most are reality TV shows.  Yikes!

Hubby, unfortunately, doesn't like these shows at all.  So while I'm on "vacation", I am expecting to catch up on all of my recorded shows, right?  NOT.  Hubby has taken over the TV!  And to make things worse, he is sick, too, so all he does is lay on the couch and watch the History Channel and shows like that, usually about wars.  I hate shows about wars (except maybe the Civil War...I really think I might have lived in those days because I am so drawn to that era.)  And the other shows he watches (mostly educational) I already learned most (not all) of it in college!  Key point here...boring.

But I digress.  I made a post last month (which I lost) about being careful what you wish for, where I complained about having too much alone time.  So my point is some point, I definitely need to find a balance here!

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Must be a Mom Thing

My two boys are 2 1/2 years apart and they fight CONSTANTLY.  They have ever since my youngest started crawling.  I have been told over and over by experienced parents that this is normal, and that they will become very close when they are adults.  Still, it drives me insane.  They are extremely competitive over everything, they bicker constantly and they always have to "one-up" each other.  In fact, they find STUPID things to argue about, just for the sake of arguing as far as I can tell.

Don't get me wrong, they love each other very much.  That side of them comes to a forefront when one or the other has been wronged.  My oldest shows it the most (even though he is usually the instigator of the bickering.  He rarely has anything nice to say to his brother and is always putting him down.)  But a powerful instance of him showing how much he cares about his brother came in Middle school, when a kid threw boiling water (via a Cup-of-Noodles) on my youngest.  It burned him so severely the school called me and I had to take him to the emergency room (and yes, he has scars to show for it.)

But the instance I was mentioning was that when my oldest got to the office after I had arrived, it took nearly the entire staff to calm him down when he was told what happened to his brother.  Some of them were even holding him back, and they kept saying "Travis, SWEAR to us you won't do anything about this."  But Travis would not respond; just stood there with fierce anger in his eyes.  After about 10 minutes of the staff and I pleading with him, he finally agreed.

But it makes me wonder...why can't they be that supportive of each other at home?  And they get along much better when it's just their dad at home.  But when I come in the door, all hell breaks loose.

So I've come to the conclusion that it must be a mom thing...

The Power of Paying Attention

Managing a household on a tight budget is a challenge for any mom.  Getting an energy bill month after month that is anywhere from $350 to $400 each and every month was really putting a dent in my bank account, as well as limiting my food budget and other items.  I contacted my energy company and they said we use over twice as much electricity as other households...YIKES!  So my husband and I decided last month to really make an effort to cut electricity usage.  We decided to really pay attention to what energy we were using.

I have been nagging my kids for years to turn off lights when they weren't in a room.  Yet they still forget.  So I made it my mission to go around checking to see if all the lights were off.  Our garage and kitchen have those old, larger florescent bulbs, and apparently those take a LOT of electricity.  Hubby's been leaving them on during the day when he's working on something even if the garage door open.  We put an end to that.  We use the light over the kitchen table now for light, instead of the florescent lights.  I quit doing laundry during the day, and don't run the dishwasher until after 7 p.m.  People would leave their cell phone chargers plugged in, even if they weren't charging their phones, but not anymore.

Laugh if you want, but those simple changes cut my electricity bill from $300 a month to $80!

Unplug lamps you don't use and use energy saving bulbs in the ones you do.  Plug all of your computer stuff and gadgets (printers, etc.) into a power strip and turn the power strip off when not in use.  Do the same with your TV and accessories.  In the winter, leave your oven door open after cooking to help heat your home, and in the summer try to BBQ as often as possible.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

I am So Proud of Myself!

Today I have spent most of my day working on this blog. And I thought my kids were high maintenance! This thing is a full time job!  Of course once I get it the way I want it, I will just worry about finding something to say each day!  (Like that will be an issue with my kids!)  But I can be a BLOGGING FOOL!

I added things I liked from looking at other blogs (and trust me, I do NOT know HTML so it took a lot of digging.) I made comments on old followers' blogs to please re-follow me, I made myself a new button for my blog, I have followed other blogs, I have revived lost posts...did some housework, watched a little TV...oh yeh, and did the whole Mom thing all day with my kids and hubby!

And I am sick to boot!

Well, I will work on it a little longer, but I am REALLY proud of myself for the things I accomplished today, especially considering I am under the weather!  Where did I EVER find the time?

Hope you all have a GREAT Easter (or Sunday, whichever applies!)

Friday, April 2, 2010

Guilty Pleasures

I know that being a mom I feel a LOT of guilt...I punished them too harshly, I'm not being the best mom, I didn't give them enough quality time today, I snapped at them for no reason...the list is endless. But there are some instances that I feel guilty about, but I can't help but want to not feel guilty! Case in point...we are a family that makes fun of each other. My husband tried to be "cool" once and said to the kids "Give me the 911" when he should have said "Give me the 411" (information - get it?) Anyway, we all laughed so hard, and we have never let him hear the end of it. Once I asked the clerk at a hot dog stand "Do you put chili on your chili dogs?" when I meant to say "Do you put onions on your chili dogs?" but my kids heard what came out of my mouth and they laugh at me all the time about it. Okay, so we laugh, and I feel guilty about teasing my husband, or my kids when it's warranted, but it's still FUN!

My youngest went up to the snow one weekend with his friends and he showed me a video (see my "Ice Breaker" video below) and I laughed SO HARD! (And you will too!) And I felt guilty about it, but he was laughing too, and he knew I was laughing with him, not at him, so we were okay. But I still to this day feel bad about laughing every time I see it. But check out the video and I bet you laugh as well. Be warned though, there are some "bad words" said, but you really need to listen to a lot of it because one of the funniest parts is what he worries about the most right after the incident happens.


Thursday, April 1, 2010

It's Hard Starting a New Blog

One of the reasons I lost so much from this blog yesterday is because I had to improvise to add stuff to my recipe page, so PLEASE check it out (and the links, even though I haven't gotten very far with them yet.)  But be sure to check each week...I will list how many tips and recipes are posted on each page so you don't waste your time clicking on them if there's nothing new.

Also, each recipe page has a link to my home page, and if you sort posts (in the future) by labels, I have also added a link to each category home page, so everything should be very easy to navigate.

Thanks for all your support!  And a HUGE thank you to those that made the effort to follow me again, even though I lost you all yesterday! 

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

This TOTALLY sucks

I lost this entire blog (partially due to my being an idiot and partially to another entity that I really don't want to talk about right now cuz I am NOT happy!) and I have just spent the last several hours trying to rebuild it.  Like I have time for this!  The things I cannot replace are all previous posts I made, all pages I had, any replies that YOU made, and any of my followers.  When I realized this I broke down in tears.

So anybody that followed me before, (I had 51 followers) please follow me again.  You can find me in your followers gadget.  My name is Jacki and my posts are from "imamom".  I left a reply to all that followed me.


(And no, this is DEFINITELY NOT an April Fools joke.)

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